Women and Men: Co-Creators from the Beginning

Cindy Brandt

lightstock_329212_medium_andrewpeters

Subscribe to the Junia Project Blog

Get content on biblical equality straight to your inbox.

  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.
Co-Creators (1)

No one of us is just one thing anymore.

I like Jeff Goins’ phrase, “The Portfolio Life”, the title he uses for his podcast which discusses how to manage the various roles we play. The idea is that we aren’t necessarily defined by one career. Our lives are composed of complex layers, with overlapping responsibilities, which in its aggregate make up the beautiful spread of our life journey.

I’m thankful to have had a rich and full portfolio. I am a daughter, a sister, a friend. I was a student, a missionary, and currently, I’m an administrative assistant. I am an activist and advocate for the global poor. I am a wife and mother of two. The latest file I’ve added to my portfolio is that of a writer. Modern demands on our portfolio lives can be overwhelming. When I get in a rut of frenzy, feeling like there’s no margin; I often just want to quit EVERYTHING. After the unrealistic daydream escape to the Maldives subsides; when I take an honest accounting of my responsibilities to find space for sanity, writing is always sitting at the top of the list of Things To Quit.

This is because of all the hats I wear, this is the only one I put on just to look pretty. We put on athletic gear to exercise, business suits for corporate meetings, painful high heels for fancy occasions. But sometimes we reserve an outfit which is both comfortable and flattering to wear, just so our clothes match the awesomeness we feel on the inside. This is what writing is for me. Don’t get me wrong, I love my readers and am floored when my writing actually impacts other people. But mainly I write because it is my way of living out my truest self, unleashing the creative potential within me, channeling my ambitions and drive, and demanding the world reserve a space for my words, my voice, for just, me.

Now we begin to tap into the deeper reasons my reflexive response is to quit writing. It is because our society will cheer a man on in pursuing such ambitions, but will say to a woman like me, “hey, well, if you’ve got time, that seems like a good idea.” A man is worthy of occupying a space in this world just for him, but a woman’s worth is inextricably bound to other people and obligations.

As a Chinese Christian girl, the script for my life was to marry, have children, slip in a side job (perhaps as a piano tutor), and serve as an encouragement and blessing to other women. We have solid support systems in place to help women who fit within this narrative thrive while wearing those hats. A lifetime of socialization prepares women for the scripted path. For those of us who wish to venture beyond it, it is a daily battle of giving ourselves permission. The expectation to live for other people has become so normalized in society that it becomes counterintuitive for women like me to feel okay about asking for a space just for me.

The creation account in scripture is a profound testimony to men and women bearing the likeness of our Creator. God entrusted this incredible, sacred task of stewardship and exploration to us so that daily we draw Divine inspiration to go forth and create beautiful things. But the task of creating is a laborious, sometimes grueling process, so much so even God rested on the seventh day. In writing, I desperately crave the support of my loved ones to hold me up when I’m tired. In writing about faith, I covet the prayers of the Church to fuel my God-given gifts to speak truth and to speak it well.

This task, to make beautiful things, is for both genders. But for centuries the world has given men the entire landscape and limited women to a small canvas. Some of us are finding our brushstrokes sweeping out of bounds, our vibrant colors spilling off the page and splattering big, beautiful art beyond our space.

Will the people of Creator God, the Church worldwide, rise up with a clarion call to women to create their masterpieces? A call loud enough so the world can hear, but soft enough to be received by the ears of every little girl and the wrinkled hands of graying women, to pick up their paintbrush, or stethoscope, or violin bow, or calculator, or spatula, or microphone, or whatever their instrument of choice is to inflict this world with beauty?

Will the Church silence the voices of those who would reserve certain positions for men, and boldly carve out space for women? Space in the pulpit, on elder boards, in classrooms? Will we demand that the world make space for our sisters in every arena of life – in the courtroom, on every rung of the corporate ladder, on the Hollywood set, in science labs and tech industries?

We, who are tasked with breaking in the fullness of creation, who are the bearers of Resurrection life; are we not the ones responsible for paving the road to equality?

The picture is incomplete right now. The job God gave to humanity is a job half done. Until we share the whole landscape we won’t get to see the beauty God intended. Tell our sisters they no longer need to ask for permission, they were given it from the beginning of human history.

Throughout history, the powerful parsed out mere scraps of canvas, but now we knock those pieces off their easels, put the paintbrush in the hands of those who have forgotten how to draw, and proclaim: there is space for you, go forth and create.

Empty space is a travesty to artists. Blank pages are offensive to writers. Watch what happens when the world gives women space: they can’t not fill it with a brilliance that can only come of people created in the image of God.

“Male and female God created them.”

It was very good. ~ GOD

Posted in
Tagged as

Cindy Brandt

Personal Stories, Women and the Church

Those Who Protect a Woman’s Call

Sarah Sparks-Franklin

Thank God for those who protect a woman’s call! “I’m not sure I can continue…

General

Awaiting the Refugee King: A Christmas Reflection

Christiana Rice

This Christmas, I’m pondering the grittier, truer side of the nativity narrative through the lens

Women and the Church

12 Ways to Advocate for Women in Ministry

Elizabeth Graham

I am a part of a Christian tradition that has ordained women as elders since…

Subscribe for our free guide

7 Things your church should know about Biblical Equality

  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.

23 Comments

  • “inflict this world with beauty.” Yes! Cindy, Keep wearing your pretty hat. Thanks for reminding me to do the same.

  • Aloha, Cindy. It’s wonderful to make your acquaintance through your writing. Thanks for lending your voice to the commitment of seeing beauty as a shared project that God gave to men and women. I hear in you the longing to be all that the Lord wants you to be and your dream to see other people do the same. Perhaps you’d like to read some of the blogs we have posted at Women of Wonder, Inc. http://womenofwonder.us
    All God’s Best,
    Grace

      • Cindy, You are so encouraging! Your words and your deeds say so much. I hope you’ll consider writing a short piece for WOW! We’d of course want to refer folks to your own site.

    • I feel braver with SheLoves and the Junia Project. These couple of days have meant the world to me. Feeling so encouraged and supported.

      • Cindy, speaking on behalf of The Junia Project community let me say that the feeling is mutual!

  • Dear Cindy, keep going; the Church desperately needs women who aren’t prepared to simply follow the scripted path, but step off it and cut a new one. Grace and peace.

  • Psalm 68: 11 The Lord gave the word; great was the company of women who bore the tidings.

    Isn’t it lovely to know He also calls us each by name.

  • I love how B.T. Roberts (the founder of the Free Methodist church) said a similar thing back in the late 1800’s:

    “The church has no right to forbid the free exercise of abilities to do good which God has given. To do so is ursurpation and tyranny. Men had better busy themselves in building up the temple of God, instead of employing their time in pushing from the scaffold their sisters, who are both able and willing to work with them side by side. All restrictions to positions in the church based on race have been abolished; it is time then that those based on sex were also abolished.”

  • Oh Cindy, this is wonderful.
    As a single woman, I’ve often felt that perhaps I should “hurry up and write my book” because I might not have time “after I get married.” As time passes, and marriage doesn’t come, I am learning that writing is part of who I am, and something that I’m not willing to use. It is intentional, just as I am.
    Thank you for sending this call out from the rooftops. So important.

    • Thanks for reading, Cara, I’m so happy to have connected with you through this blog contest. 🙂 You are an amazing writer, and living beautifully and fully through writing regardless of marital status. Thank you for blessing us with your life lived out loud.

  • Thanks. This spoke powerfully to me. I completely understand the “support for the scripted life” idea.

    • Hi Terri, I’m glad this resonated with you. I want to honor all women and our individual callings, and I think many churches say those words, but are uncomfortable in lending space for women to fully live out their potential.

      • So true Cindy – at my church the topic of what ‘roles’ a woman can have is often deliberately avoided. It’s simply too uncomfortable and no one is ever willing to discuss uncomfortable issues. We have women on our leadership team (effectively, elders), but there are enough people against women pastors to put in an invisible ceiling above this level.

        • Dear Sharon,
          It’s clear that you are sensitive to the dynamics at work. It’s hard to be where you are. I just lifted up a prayer for you.
          For myself, I eventually joined a denomination that proactively supports ordained women in order to continue on my own journey and pursue God’s calling.
          This month, I’m actually going to be speaking with a male pastoral colleague at a forum for fellow ministers and parachurch leaders on the topic of women and men serving together in the church. Already some consider the topic controversial. My prayer is actually that it would be a friendly and respectful dialogue between a brother and sister who have made separate journeys and yet have landed theologically in the same place. Could I possibly ask you to pray for the groups that will be gathering in NYC on 10/23 and NJ on 10/24 respectively? I know that the Lord will make the difference.
          Blessings,
          Grace

Comments are closed.

Scroll to Top